Custody strategies should be a part of any good custody case. In fact, they should be the most important thing you focus on with your attorney. The sad truth is that in family law, it’s not about who has the strongest case – it’s about whose case is presented the best. There’s a big difference. The custody strategies you employ in your custody battle, both in court and out, will be the biggest determinant of whether you get custody of your kids.

Here are 3 of the most effective custody strategies:

1. Stay Logical Your ex will look for any kind of irrational behavior from you to help with their case. This could be getting you to agree to something you normally never would because they are playing on your emotions. Or it could be portraying you in court as an emotional wreck or an unstable influence in your children’s lives. The best offense is to stay rational and logical at all times – at least in front of your ex. And never agree to anything without first discussing it with your attorney.

2. Stay on Theme Discuss with your attorney the key arguments in your case and the key incidents to support those. There should be an overlying theme to your case -whether it’s to show you as a good parent or to show the vindictiveness of your ex. You have to remember that the judge knows nothing about you or your ex, and you have a very limited amount of time to paint a picture for them. Try not to get sidetracked by all the other things that your ex did wrong that you feel should matter – most of them won’t to the judge.

3. Stay on Offense In custody cases, one of the best moves your ex can make to throw you off your game is make you suddenly play defense. For instance, in one custody case, the father was facing contempt charges for keeping the son and refusing to give him back. The mom had a solid case and was confident in what the outcome would be.

The father suddenly filed counter contempt charges against the mom claiming that she was refusing him visitation. The mom then had to expend a lot of energy gathering evidence to prove her innocence, rather than focusing solely on his guilt.

While you obviously do have to prove your innocence against any false allegations that are thrown your way, you must always stay mentally on the offense. In this case for instance, the mom should have incorporated the false allegations into her custody strategy rather than letting it play into her ex’s scheme.

She viewed the charge as a stand alone issue she had to defend herself against. She should have instead shown the allegations for what they were – yet another attempt to harass her, to try to manipulate the system against her, and an attempt to take the focus off of her ex husband’s own vindictive actions.

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Joan Baker is an expert in child custody after going through her own custody ordeal, researching the laws and now helping other parents going through the process.

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